Family and duties.
My brother asked me to the guarantor for his study loan. I had no qualms about agreeing. He then approached me with a question about his programming assignment. A few probes later, I wondered whether I had made the right move by being his guarantor.
His assignment was due Saturday and yet he had not started on it, nor started on the materials for it. It was a basic topic in programming and that he could not understand the fundamentals worried me. I tried to teach him, but he was not learning. Was I a bad teacher, him a bad student, or both? I wished he had a more committed attitude to his studies. I did not know what his other commitments in life were, but I wished.
In another matter, my sister asked me about housing loans and I felt oddly peeved. While she and her husband stayed rent-free in a place I bought, because I wanted them not to be financially burdened when starting a new family, I was feeling mixed about the prospect that they could be looking to buy a place to rent out. I mean, I want them to earn, and be independent and succeed, but why was I upset that I did not charge them rent and that they may be charging someone else rent? I was a conflict of emotions and pointed that much out to my sister, rather unfairly. I needed to learn and resolve that issue on my own, I suppose. Or perhaps letting her know how I felt was the correct path to an open conversation. Or the closing of certain family conversations.
What be my duties to my family?